If it’s meant to be, he’ll come back on his own. The best thing to do is quit cold turkey. This is especially true if you stay in touch over this break and continue to see each-other, and maybe even hook up, from time to time. Don’t let yourself get walked on and don’t let him string you along…he wants that…it makes him feel secure…and it does nothing but prolong your hurt in the process. If he feels sure that you’ll be there whenever he’s ready to come back, he can take all the time he needs. And don’t cling to this guy like a life-raft. Have confidence that even if this relationship doesn’t work out, you will find another that will. Confidence is a huge turn on for a guy and whether you’re a guy or a girl, you always want what you can’t have. Just make sure you keep your confidence in check. Instead, use that time to focus on other areas of your life. You also can’t bug him for reassurance that he’s gonna come back and the relationship will resume. Even if he is going through a hard time, just leave it alone and let him handle it on his own. Just give him the space he needs to deal with his issue and focus on other things in the meantime. So what should a girl do when her guy wants to take a break?įirst off, let it be. Guys are just wired differently and handle stressful situations differently, this does not include talking about the problem for most men. If a guy seems cold and aloof during break time, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t care.
We had already had the sad emotional conversation when we decided to go on the break… what’s the point of having it over and over again? I wasn’t trying to be cold, I just wanted to focus on me. I did the break thing with a girlfriend and she accused me of being cold because I didn’t want to get into deep emotional discussions about the relationship. This will only make him feel pressured and he’ll pull away even more. While he’s working on putting himself back together, the worst thing his girl can do is fall apart and burden him with constant texts and questions. Maybe he’ll go to the gym, maybe he’ll go out with his friends, maybe he’ll devote himself to his job, anything to make him feel like he’s back on top. In a relationship it’s easy to let other areas of your life slip away and a break is a good time to re-build those areas.Ī guy will usually spend this time trying to get back on his A-game.
It’s also a good chance for both people in the relationship to focus on themselves for a bit. The point of it should be to figure out why certain problems are arising in the relationship and to decide if they’re fixable. However, it is possible for things to go back to normal as long as both people use the break time properly. In my opinion, breaks are usually a big sign of trouble. She’ll obsess over what she might have done to push him away and will try to devise some plan to get him back. The girl will usually see it as some kind of rejection or abandonment and will go into crisis mode. The guy just sees it as him needing time to work through some issues he’s having. Whether he officially says he needs space or he just disappears, this situation usually causes problems in the relationship because a guy and a girl will see it in two totally different ways. Even if the problems aren’t overt, he may be feeling unhinged about some aspect of the relationship, oftentimes it’s by the fact that the relationship is getting more serious. Whenever a guy says he wants a “break” or some time to just “chill for a bit,” it usually means he’s feeling stressed or overwhelmed by the relationship and needs time to work things out on his own.
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